Boundaries are essential for you to remain in your purpose from God.
You can’t afford to be outside of God’s will for your life because of someone else’s needs or desires.
Here are three clear reasons from scripture why you need to set boundaries.
Focused Scripture: John 11:1-45
Let God be GOD.
Setting boundaries will upset “people”. Especially if it means they no longer have the access they desire to you, your life or your resources. Jesus was told Lazarus was dying and didn’t provide an immediate response. People were mad and upset with him. (John 11: 21-22)
People won’t learn the lesson when you make saving them your assignment! Face facts, you are just the easiest way out for them. What if your availability doesn’t even make them consider going to God? (Psalms 34:17)
You were not created for this.
Boundaries establish your self-worth and awareness of what you deserve. There will be people who use relation and relationship (two different things) to guilt trip you into setting boundaries aside. When you tolerate a behavior from someone ask yourself if this is in alignment with who God created you to be?
God (The Father) can’t deal with their behavior towards you (his child) if you keep accepting it from them. Had Jesus answered their call to come see Lazarus, it would have been in disobedience towards God. He knew God was doing something. He had to stay in his own place physically and spiritually in order for God to work. (John 11: 4, 14-15)
When you tolerate a behavior from someone, ask yourself: Is this is in alignment with who God created me to be?
Then your prayer to God is: Show me how to deal with this situation so you get the glory
God will correct THEM and YOU
Hebrews 12:6 says God corrects those he LOVES. When you choose disobedience to what God has called you to do, allow someone to make you their savior or continue to accept behaviors from others that prevent you from operating in your purpose, you too, require correction.
All these things keep you out of the will of God for YOUR LIFE which requires correction. Have you considered the ripple effect of lost time, resources and energy from your own life to not set boundaries with people?
So today, evaluate your boundaries with these three questions:
1. Where are the areas of my life not aligned with who God has called me to be or requiring me to become?
2. What boundaries do I need to put in place for the growth I desire?
3. When can I begin these steps and who can hold me accountable?
I’m always rooting for you!
Disclaimer: In appreciation of your time and with deep consideration for your journey, I engage with my authentic voice. This was not written or generated by artificial intelligence (AI).
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